Anyway, he sees me and says, "That's all of your hair? Wow.....you got that good hair."
*palm smacks forehead*
Of course, I corrected him and said, "All healthy hair is good hair, and I despise the 'good hair' comments," and left it at that. He may have meant it as a compliment, but its origins stem from hatred, imo.
Fast forward to the end of the evening, and him mentioning how only certain types of Black hair are manageable and how I have "wake up and go" hair, and that I wouldn't understand. Ummm.....if any of you all know me, you KNOW how that burned me up, but I remained composed. I explained to him that I know many MANY ladies with highly textured hair who manage JUST FINE. Even went over a SLEW of styles that other ladies have mastered on their hair that I wouldn't be able to rock. That it boils down to patience and really understanding our hair. That the whole "good hair" mess is just our way of saying the closer, or rather, LOOSER our hair is(the more non-black our background is assumed to be....based upon physical aesthetics), the better. Then he mentioned something about him having Indian in his family, but his hair and sister's hair not looking like mine.
*double palm-smacks forehead*
This attitude is HIGHLY FRUSTRATING. But considering he's the only male amongst multiple sisters, his attitude is only reflective of the attitude of the ladies he's encountered, which is even sadder.
How many of you have encountered this? How did you deal with it?